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Things you avoid saying to someone with an eating disorder

Words could be bullets. It is significant to choose it wisely. We collected some of the sentences that we should avoid:

1- Avoid saying these words when they tell you that they have an ED:

  • I told you that it was not going to end up well, but you didn't listen to me
  • You deserve what happened to you because I warned you.
  • You’re okay
  • You’re just being lazy
  • It was your choice, you started it and you'll end it
  • I told you! Now look at the consequences of your actions
  • So you’re going to gain all of this weight back?!
  • I wish I had your willpower
  • Stop! You’re doing this for attention
  • I wish if I had an ED
  • Eating disorders are so cool, they let you lose weight
  • You know what the idea of throwing up food is really cool for weight loss
  • Why don’t you just eat?!
  • Just eat healthy and exercise
  • You won’t be able to recover

2- Do not say in front of them words like:

  • I need to eat healthier
  • I feel fat/gross
  • I need to lose weight
  • I have to burn this food off
  • I need to go on a diet, I’ve been so bad today
  • I burned X calories today
  • I’m counting my calories to watch my weight
  • I wish if I had your body
  • Do you think I’m fat?
  • Can you give me a diet plan, I want to lose weight
  • Are you going to eat all of that?!

3- Avoid saying these words when they’re eating

  • Looks like someone is hungry!
  • Are you sure you should be eating that?
  • Is that healthy? or Isn’t it unhealthy?
  • You should eat fewer carbs/fats/protein
  • Do you know how many calories are in this meal?
  • You have to finish all of your plate
  • You’re eating too fast/too slow
  • Finally! You’re eating
  • Wow! That’s a lot of food
  • I’m on a diet I can’t eat with you
  • I think you should cut out sugar/ carbs/ fats/etc.

4- Avoid saying these words (Weight gain):

  • What was your lowest weight?
  • You gained weight
  • Is that enough weight gain?
  • You’re getting fat
  • You will let yourself go
  • If you are fat ..so what do you think am I?
  • Are you at your highest weigh now?
  • Do you need to gain more?!
  • You look the same!
  • The fact that you have to gain all of your weight back is so annoying!
  • You can have some of my body fat if you want

5- Avoid saying these words to a man:

  • Man up!!
  • Girls won't love your body, you're too skinny & you have to know that being skinny isn't attractive.
  • These are women's disorders
  • Being thin isn’t attractive, just go to the gym
  • You should be ashamed of yourself